[mamatasha]

Hello everyone!

I'll try to be brief. Our adoption story is not failed...yet, but very close to it.

We adopted my distant relative 3 years ago when he was almost 10. The reasons were all good and sincere. My family is large and I was determined to do a good deed and took orphaned boy in our family. We have biological children from the previous marriages living with us and we all got along really-really well. Until new member of the family came into picture.

We are struggling all three years and at the point of our family breaking apart. My husband just cannot take it anymore, cannot find contact or reason with our adopted son. I know, I may sound cold-hearted, but I cannot lose my husband over a boy who lies to us, steals from our house and from friend’s houses, he never said "sorry" or had any kind of remorse...ever. He just hates being caught. It scares me to even think about time when he is 16...

Now, he has grandfather who is willing to take over for a while, to help me out... My husband just wants to stop it and let grandfather to take care of the child permanently. But I'm afraid of doing that too. I'm ashamed and feel sorry for our adopted son. I feel sorry for him as long as I'm away from home. Once I'm home and hear about the new trouble, which happens almost every day, I just want this nightmare to be over.

I'm not trying to find excuse or way to make peace with myself while doing wrong thing - and giving him away does feel like a wrong thing. I'm just torn and hurt and crying... I'm so afraid I'll lose my husband because we cannot handle this.

What would you do?

Tasha