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Originally Posted by lovemy2boys
What about journaling? You can write that letter - put all of your emotions out there - write whatever you are feeling in your heart without having to censor yourself...the good, the bad, whatever.
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I would love to journal I'm just not the greatest at following through. I do it for a couple of days and then its months before I do anything. I do go to a triad group where I live along with another adoption.com adoptee (Hi Carol....Hope you had a good Christmas) This group has helped tremendously, but its only once a month and I need support sooner than later some days. You know instant gratification.
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Originally Posted by cksmom
If you feel like writing a nasty letter and getting all of your anger and hurt out, then do it. BUT DON'T SEND IT! Put it away and when you read it later, you will be glad you wrote it but never mailed it.
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Thats what I'm afraid of, that one day I'll have had enough and actually send it. But really will that be a bad thing? Or maybe its part of the grieving process and I'm in the anger phase. I never though I would be angry, but really I am. But I think I'm more angry at myself for complicating my life. I have never really thought deeply about my birthmom until I tried to contact her and now thats all I can think about.
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Originally Posted by SWGAgirl
AMEN. You hit the nail on the head with this comment. You are absolutely right. I'm proud that you have realized this so quickly and can state it.
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Thank you so much for that, at least its somewhat of a break through
now hopefully she can have one really really soon!
JaneyTWO,
Thanks so much, and yes we have talked on and off on different threads. This is such a difficult time and your words of encouragement has helped a bunch. My husband has said he wants to read the thread so that he can see the help that I'm getting and the pain I'm going through. He is not adopted, but I have to say that he is doing a great job trying to understand.