[longingforadaughter]

Hi,

Just wanted to say hello. My DH and I are not new to the domestic adoption scene as we have been waiting for almost 2 years to privately adopt.

Over the last 2 months we have really been considering doing foster to adopt. My cousin adopted her oldest daughter from foster care and it was such a trying emotional process that we swore we didn't want to go thru that again.

However, time is not on our side as we are in our early 40s and not prime birth mother material as we already have 2 bio sons and not alot of money to handle the costs.

Point of this post is I work in a field where I see some of the results of children that are in homes where CPS has become involved and my heart breaks time and again for these children. We want so much for a child and to be able to be parents again but we really feel drawn to this area. I know we are going to experience the heart break I wanted to avoid but maybe we will be able to make some kind of difference in the life of a child or children.

I hope this doesn't sound like we are selfish or self centered because we really want a child but at the same time I feel like we need to be doing more to make a difference.

Any comments, good or bad, would be appreciated.

Thanks!
Debbie