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I hope you don't mind an adoptee chiming in. In my opinion, the overriding emotion that many bmom's in this forum and other places is they want a good life for their baby. At the time, in the circumstances, they make the decision (or at least, allow the decision to be made) that adoption is better for their child. I was not given up for financial reasons, actually my bfamily was better off than my adopted family in the 50's. But my bmom gave me to a family that was in the right place to parent a child because she loved me. I always felt that and, after reunion, I know it to be true.
No matter what reason or mountains of reasons that a girl uses to make a decision - her decision should be respected. Every reason is valid to her. Very, very few girls make any decision concerning pregnancy lightly. I used to tell my daughter when talking about protection that once you are pregnant before you are in a good place in your life to parent, there are no good and easy decisions - no matter what decision you ultimately decide you can best live with.
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