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I wish someone else would respond and offer some other advice. If I were you, I would call her sometime in mid-January. I would just say my name, apologize for interrupting her, say I'm calling in behalf of someone else, and then ask if she had received the letters that were sent to her.
I am normally a very timid person, but I had to gather the courage to call my half-sister a couple months ago (my story is posted elsewhere -- my bmom is deceased, and I have been trying to gain some acceptance from my bmom's older daughter). My half-sis had promised to send me a picture of my bmom last spring, so after months of waiting, I had to do something -- so I called. I didn't want to call -- I was terrified -- but I forced myself to sit down and dial the number. I ended up leaving a message (twice), and got really depressed when she never called back. Then, a few weeks later, a package arrived in the mail with the pictures.
I felt I had a reason to call since she hadn't sent the pictures, and you also have a very good reason since you do deserve an answer one way or another. You cannot be absolutely sure that she herself actually opened and read the letters until you talk to her. As I suggested before, perhaps her husband opened the letters and didn't want to tell her.
I personally don't see what else you can do. You will have to be prepared what to say if you reach an answering machine or her husband, and if you hang up, they might see your number if they have caller-id. I'm not sure if your home number shows up if you use a calling card? These are the reasons that I personally hate making phone calls.
But what do you have to lose, and what is the worst that can happen?
So far you have done everything right. It's good that you are there to support your husband because it really hurts for an adoptee to feel rejected all over again. Hopefully the New Year will bring both of you some answers and peace.
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