[thelowlanders]

Well, they had a great party. It was good closure for the girls and my friends boys. There are more to consider in these situations than just the foster children and birth parents. Her boys need closure too, not just up and out in 2hrs.

The children were moved to an adopt/foster home. They haven't moved our little one. But, apparantly, anything can happen over night.

"We" was the wrong choice of words. She did after considering alot of aspects. Including my experience of being ripped out of homes quickly in the first few years of my life, and the lasting effects of no closure. But I also mentioned the terrible weather and what sense it made to have them take the girls home after the party. Anyway, the choice was of course the CW's and hers.

She had asked to have them moved as soon as they knew if they were going to be adopted or not. The sudden movement of the girls was probably due to the camping like situation while they are remodeling for a couple of weeks. It was not a "certified" home. Yet, she was surprised how they wouldn't bat an eye if they were on a "camping" trip for 2 weeks in same environment.

Anyway, my actual question for her and for myself in future was how to go about this? I had hoped to hear from you all how to break the news to them. How do I tell our 3 yr old she won't see her cousins for a long time (or ever)? How do you go about introducing your F child to their new family? Just wanted to hear some phrases you've used. But, we got it figured out for all the girls. And our FD is doing fine.