[Janeytwo]

Dpen6

You should be thankful you were not aborted"( we all should be),

I can tell you this one especially irks me like nothing else. Somehow I am forevered lumped in with this option even though it's not the option I took. Weird.

"you should be thankful your not begging on the streets""

I would bet every kid hears this one at some point. Our parent's generation. Some of the stuff they said (probably just repeating what their parents said)...Oooo boy!!!

Even folks that were brought up in abusive homes that often say they wished they were adopted are not really saying they wishe they were adopted, they wished their families didn't abuse them...the abuse came first, they don't wish for the intial need to be adopted

Interesting point. Though I never thought anything like that. I just always thought I deserved it.

Loveajax

btw, i am grateful for my daughter....not because she "cured' anything but because she is an awesome kid.

I love this!!! And you're right; ours kids are a blessing - no matter how they come to us. That doesn't really matter, IMO. You are a wise woman.

Lovemy2boys

But it also hurts to have the infertility thing lobbed back at you because that affects ALL people with infertility - not just those who expect people to feel gratitude

I would be incensed too. It's sort of the mirror image of people saying, "Aren't you grateful that someone wanted your children?"

I've heard that one (from a family member - big surprise). This is terrible but I want to scream at people like that: "Aren't you glad that your father-in-law died so that you could be there for your husband?"

And the things is, we'd never say such a thing because death is sacred supposedly. But life? Not held in the same regard. Apparently the desire to have children is in "open season" as it were. And the losers are firing away!! Good grief!!

Kathy

I've never expected them to be grateful to me!

Amen to this!! That is the last thing I'd want to hear. I mean they don't owe me that. They don't owe me anything.

Shadow Riderer

I am grateful for the life God has given me.

Life is fabulous!!! And I have to agree on the pea thing.. I'll eat them but it's more fun to flick them at the dog!!

I do not like the pickled beets
I do not like them before sweets
I do not like them Shadow chick
I do not like them, they are sick!!!

Cksmom

I don't think it matters if she was forced to give me up or if she decided on her own. She still did what she thought was best and I respect that decision.

Sigh...I wish there were an icon in here of a person standing holding a lighter (like at a rock concert) cuz I'd hold one up for you!!! Thank you!! I for one am grateful for your compassion!!

And you hate beets too? See I knew there was something about you I liked! LOL!!