[jphollen]

My foster son had a visit tonight. It was a two hour visit and he had a four hour car ride. He had some home work that involved a time line of his life. His teacher was excited that he would be seeing his bmom tonight and hopeful that she may help him. Long story short told him not to bother with it and it didn't get done. (he got home at nine tonight, he lied about it and even if I could force him to do it I don't know the info to give him and think he deserves the natural consequence of a bad grade) Doesn't sound like a big deal right?

I have worked to try and convince this kid that school and homework are really important. It's important to try your best and make sure to get everything done. I really felt like I was making progress too
When he was home they took bmom to truancy court a few times one year he missed seventy days and the other like fifty. He was never made to do anything and always got the impression that school didn't matter it was just something you did until you were old enough to quit.

This kid's teacher says he has the potential to really be something. He unlike a lot of kids in care has no learning problems and is one of the smartest kids in his class.

One little thing actually undid a lot of work and coaching on my part. I know part of the problem is bmom and I aren't on the same page. I know she didn't mean to undermine me, but I am frustrated. Do I call his cw and mention it? Do I throw a fit (just kidding but thats what I want to do. Or just accept defeat? Cw tends to think I am complaining. Really when I "complain" it's concern but that's another post I guess. What should I do?