Hey Jackie! Hey All!
And a special "hey" to Raven. I was wondering what happened. I was envisioning a fire in your part of sunny California. You guys sure do get some crazy weather-related stuff out there!! Glad you're okay! Missed ya!!
Jackie
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The problem is, if we don’t learn to say no, we stop liking ourselves and the people we always try to please. We may even punish others our of resentment.
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Oh man! Was I ever good at this one. I'd forgotten about that part of me; martyr Janey. Maaaannn what a witch!!!
I just posted to Monster about Christmas miseries. Laughing here (not at Monster but at myself). Back in Shiney White Janey days I really took the respectable act to extremes. I got into this rediculous habit of wrapping my presents in the most elaborate fasion. I'd scour the malls for lush, rich papers with perfectly matching bows - even going so far as to try to match the wrapping scheme to the personality or likes of the person my present was for. ARRRRRRRGGGHHH!! I'm telling ya folks it didn't get no whiter white-girl than that!!!
Anyhoo...one day I wrapped a stunning masterpiece resplendent with a thick linen paper with actualy leaves pressed into it and two vividly lime and lilac colored ribbons (I actually took a bow making class and added my homemade bow on top of the box). So I took it to the inlaws and proudly displayed my wrapped gift, moving all the other boxes out of the way so that it would shine like the North Star itself. Then my 2 year old nephew promptly went over and jumped on top the box and crushed it!! LOL!!!
I can laugh my patoot off now but at the time, I flew off the handle totally devastated! I tell ya people, when I look back at who I was those years ago, it actually scares me!!
(And I wonder why I ended up in the bin).
Never fear though! I am cured. Now I am no longer shiney and white. Now I'm a beiger shade of pale and I wrap my packages in whatever paper's on sale and you're lucky if you get a bow - let alone a gift tag.
Ususally I just write the name in pen on the paper itself. And I also gave up Christmas cards. What's that song by Cream? "I feel free"
On a more serious note though, my inability to say "no" cost me two children. In that way, it is heartwrenching.
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When we learn to say no, we stop lying. People can trust us, and we can trust ourselves.
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Amen to this! I do know myself better now and I try to no longer make impossible demands of myself that neither I or others can live up to. In the end, who am I to make such demands anyway?
I have always liked the 12th Step. Carrying the message to others. That's what we're doing in here isn't it? Carrying a message of freedom and hope to those women like us. Such a good thing that.
Oh and thanks for quoting Joe vs. The Volcano.
Once I did owe my soul to the company store; now I just revel in knowing that God loves me.
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