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Originally Posted by Amandak249
Bsister, Ellen, is insanely jealous of my relationship with our father. She is currently 16, and is only a few years younger than I am. She has hurt my physically, and emotionally for the past 5 years, and I've grown tired of it. She ignores or responds very rudely to all of my attempts to be kind(birthday cards, etc) She will "twist the knife" at any chance she gets. She insults me, says hurtful things, has injured me physically( by "accidentally" slamming my leg in the car door) and will hurt me at every opportunity. She lies about me ( no one believes her), will send me nasty emails (before I was smart enough to block her completely) and despises me for no other reason than that I exist.
This is not normal. Jealousy is one thing but she's gone way over the top. Honestly, I think she has the potential to be dangerous.
My birthfather recognizes this issue, but pleads with me not to give up hope on her, and explains that she's jealous and will grow out of it. He spoils her , indulges her every whim, and allows her out of control behavior to flourish by enabling her . She is extremely entitled, and is overall not a kind person. Your bfather IS enabling her behaviour.
Some members of my birthfamily see how Ellen is upset my presence, and now they are uneasy about my presence in their family because it makes her angry. This speaks volumes. They are afraid of her anger. This, too, has hurt me very deeply. Of course it does, but greater than their wish to include you is their fear of her response. Take the good here - THEY DO want you - but there is someone who is so unhealthy that they fear her reaction even more.
I am considering sending a letter to my birthfather , thanking him for all he's done for me, and explaining that I need some time away from the situation. Great idea! It hurts me in ways that I cannot even express. I did not want to do this, but I feel I have no other choice. You don't, unless you are willing to continue to be treated like this but, thankfully, you're wise enough not to tolerate it any longer.
It has come to the point where I WANT her to come to me desiring a relationship, if only so I can reject her, and tell her exactly where I'd like her to go.. (if you catch my drift) Be careful, I really do think her actions are so out of line that you should just withdraw, don't provoke her.
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