[Amandak249]

I've posted about this before, over a year ago, and because the situation has only gotten worse, despite my best attempts at reconciliation, I have truly come to the end of my rope.

I was adopted as a young child, and have one full sister who resides with my birthfather. Bmom is basically out of the picture for me. I was reunited over 7 years ago, and at first everything went swimmingly. I formed a good relationship with my bfather and bsister. Slowly, though, things began to sour. Bsister, Ellen, is insanely jealous of my relationship with our father. She is currently 16, and is only a few years younger than I am. She has hurt my physically, and emotionally for the past 5 years, and I've grown tired of it. She ignores or responds very rudely to all of my attempts to be kind(birthday cards, etc) She will "twist the knife" at any chance she gets. She insults me, says hurtful things, has injured me physically( by "accidentally" slamming my leg in the car door) and will hurt me at every opportunity. She lies about me ( no one believes her), will send me nasty emails (before I was smart enough to block her completely) and despises me for no other reason than that I exist.

My birthfather recognizes this issue, but pleads with me not to give up hope on her, and explains that she's jealous and will grow out of it. He spoils her , indulges her every whim, and allows her out of control behavior to flourish by enabling her . She is extremely entitled, and is overall not a kind person.

I understand that her life has not been a picnic. My biological family has a lot of issues, and unlike me, she grew up around them. However I've had enough of her jealousy and cruelty. I've waited for her to mature for a long time, and I've sent her a card on her birthday and a small Christmas present every year for years. I didn't
want to give her any ammunition. I chose the high road, but I cannot do it anymore. I sent her my customary text message for her birthday about a month ago, and she responded rudely, first with cursing at me, and then by ignoring me. This Christmas, while filling out my cards, I addressed the card to my birth father and his girlfriend, and left her name off the card. I sent both of them gifts, and sent nothing to my sister.


She has been so cruel for so long, and the entire situation is so clouded that I no longer know how to react. Some members of my birthfamily see how Ellen is upset my presence, and now they are uneasy about my presence in their family because it makes her angry. This, too, has hurt me very deeply.


I am considering sending a letter to my birthfather , thanking him for all he's done for me, and explaining that I need some time away from the situation. It hurts me in ways that I cannot even express. I did not want to do this, but I feel I have no other choice. My sister is not changing anytime soon,and I have enough on my plate without this craziness. Does anyone have any advice on this issue, short of cutting off all contact? If I can think of nothing else, I'll have to take a break from this relationship. It has become too painful for me.

It has come to the point where I WANT her to come to me desiring a relationship, if only so I can reject her, and tell her exactly where I'd like her to go.. (if you catch my drift)

These sort of malicious thoughts are very unlike me, and it frightens me to have so much hatred for someone I should pity.

Are we required to continue a reunion at any cost?