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Christy I'm sorry you're going through this stressful time and I hope you find some answers and support here to help you through it.
I'm not sure of your exact situation but I'll answer your post as best as I can with what you've already said. If you want to get more specific either here or in PMs more specific answers can be given.
First I'd like to say congratulations on your pregnancy. It may not seem like something to celebrate at this time but I wish someone had said that to me 7 years ago so I will say it to you.
Second take a deep breath while time seems to be flying and February seems like it is right around the corner it is still a month and a half away you do NOT have to a decision right now.
Adoption can be a good plan but its has its down side as well. There are also different types of adoption including open adoption which is only legally enforceable in certain states.
You said you don't want any ties to him (i'm assuming you are referring to your baby's father). Regardless of your choice you are going to have ties to him. Even if you choose a completely closed adoption you will be tied to him through this baby who is out there somewhere.
As someone who sometimes feels smothered by the permanent tie to my ex I hate to be the one to say it but there is no undoing it.
Again if you'd like to me be more specific on anything I've said or address something I haven't just ask.
~Katja
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