[cetalley]

I think ALL the previous post ar wonderful solutions. I am a Firstmom, and I can atest to not being "of sound mind) for several months after. I still grieve and ache, but some days are better than others. The Firstmom of which you speak...could and should be going through emotions she cannot even to begins to understand! Please allow her time, there is no hurry, and as a parent to this blessing of a child, you must remember to continue to communicate...for in time she will reach out for that. I send this with Blessings...it is too far and few instances, of journies between Firstmoms and real-life moms, that wish only to offer the best to ! Firstmom....I hope this makes some sense.....I will stop my rant, and say to you ...give her the time it takes, continue pics, letters,etc....she will appreciate this act of kindness!