[qs mom]

I always tell my son to share. He is actually very good at sharing. I've shamed some kids though, and parents too. When someone doesnt' share with him I explain that although we share in our house, no every one does and if someone wants to be selfish with their things, it's ok, because it is theirs.

As for hitting, I'm in a very akward positon right now. My son is not a violant child. He doesn't hit people, he can be aggressive out of excitement, not anger. But there is a bully in our lives. This boy seems to pop up everywhere. He has shoved chairs into my sons knees, into his belly, tripped him grabbed him in the crotch, etc. I have told my son there is to be no hitting. He is to tell on Dylan. Q has defended himself twice against this kid. It's a fine, fine line to walk. I don't want him hitting anyone, but I dont' want him abused by this kid either. My son doesn't get the 'gray areas'. It's yes or no, he doesn't understand maybe.

I've tried to explain that although there is no hitting, if he feels that he isn't safe to scream fire, run, hit, kick anything to get to a place he feels safe.

This bully makes my son feel unsafe.