This just brings to mind my second husband. What a horribly co-dependant relationship THAT was!
The thought that came to my mind was one day near the end, he had a dentist appointment, I, of course, had to remind him (constantly). Apparently it was my 'job' to make sure he woke up for work, for school, did his homework (he was in college), EVERYTHING. So, I remind him about his dentist appointment. He leaves, comes back a short time later. I had remembered the wrong time.
. He ended up being too late for his appointment. I got HELL. Absolute HELL. All because
I forgot the time for
his appointment.
I felt so helpless. So alone. So out of control.
Sometimes he would call me at work and say 'I have something to talk to you about when you come home' in his 'and I'm not happy about it' tone of voice. I would spend the rest of the day on the verge of tears and shaking.
He never actually hit me, but I understand how women who get hit feel after this experiance.
After I left him the only 'support' I got from my father was an unsaid 'well I told you not to marry him'. It's like he felt I got what I deserved. That was the whole problem with that relationship. My ex would say 'I don't want to say these things about you, I don't want to do this to you, but it's your own fault you see...'
What I deserve.