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She apologized, but only because she wanted something. It was not genuine. The time to apologize was when I initially brought the infraction to her attention. This reminded me of the first time she told me she loved me. She had been home about 2 weeks. The ice cream truck was coming down the street. She looked at the ice cream truck, then looked at me with big eyes, smiled sweetly and said, "I love you, Mommy. Can I have some ice cream?" Something about operating this way makes me feel slimed.
As predicted, Hilde had no problem getting another ride. Her friend's mom was happy to do it. Triangulation is a given. It is her modus operandi.
I am SO tired of living this way! The way I feel this morning is if this other mom is crazy enough to believe this lying child, willing to get up even earlier than she already does to pick up this child at 5:45 am, use additional gas, then what does it matter to me? I do not know this woman. The adult leadership of the activity are well-aware of the issues. They are the ones I interact with. Eventually this poor woman will find out the truth of the situation and decide if she wants to continue or not.
I think maybe it has just gotten to the point that I have to realize that after all this time Hilde is not going to change. She will always have the ability to manipulate people and get people to do what she wants done. I have worn myself out trying to make sure she never succeeded at doing it, but it has been impossible to control and she has continued and even honed her skills.
There are many positive things about Hilde. I love her dearly. But there is only so much I can do, especially knowing that it is not really changing anything deep down.
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