[nicavonn]

I made contact 16 yrs ago with my b-mom. 2 yrs later i tried to contact the b-dad thru a mutual friend of theirs. i was told that he was not interested in a meeting because his marriage was unstable and he had a 14-yr-old daughter and this brought up issues (they were 14 when i was conceived). i found out a little bit about his family and now - thanks to the internet - i have found my b-bro and b-sis online. but i have not reached out to them for fear that they do not know i exist and i would not want to upset their family.
i am wondering if anyone can help me out with some advise on this? anyone experienced a situation like this? can you share some common sense with me about how to handle this or go about it? also i would be interested to hear from any b-sibs about how they felt about being contacted or learning of adopted b-sibs...any dos and don'ts?

btw, i have tried to find the b-dad thru people finders and not only does he have one of the most generic names but it's as if he has hidden all public information or i don't have enough to make a definite ID.

also i should mention the b-sibs are in their mid and late 20s. i am 39.