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I will start by saying that I feel your pain. I too have lost friends and fmaily. And it hurts.
Why isn't her sister buying her a new ipod?
I know you want her to know you love her, but material things will not prove love. In fact, with RAD kids, its just the opposite. It proves to them how crazy we are that they can treat us that way and we still give them things. They will gladly take our gifts and still want more, with out giving anything in return.
My daughter's birthday was last month and she got nothing. I couldn't reward her for her behavior. And I don't think I would be a good mom if I did. Christmas I will give her gifts of things she needs like gloves, socks, school supplies, etc.
You don't have to let her walk all over you. that doesn't show love and it doesn't build her self esteem. I believe these children respect us more if we stand up for ourselves. Now, I'm not saying that sovles the issues, but it does help. If anything it helps us feel more pride.
I know its hard. Its a struggle everyday. These kids can beat you down. They literally suck the life out of you. Come on here and vent whenever you feel that you need to. There are parents here that understand.
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