[lucyjoy]

If you promised something, keep that promise(though if her sister broke it, sister should replace it).

Christmas is a different issue. I mean don't buy her extras or clothes or take out food. If she isn't giving, she doesn't get the perks either.

And despite how strong we are, it does hurt to hear others tell us we're doing it wrong when we know we aren't. It hurts to have our friends side with our kids when they should know us well enough to know who we are as parents. I've lost a lot of friends along the way and gained a lot of new ones that live the way I do.

Wish their was an easy answer or an easy fix, but there isn't.