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Depleted Mom
Okay, maybe not totally depleted....yet. But, very battle-wearing and ready to make some serious changes in the way I relate to this child. I need some help and not sure where to turn. I had a great therapist who helped me a few years ago, but she has just brought home 2 older children and not in a position to deal with this as well. I have emailed and called, but she has not reponded, and I get the impression from her facebook page that she is overwhelmed right now. So, where to turn?
I brought Hilde (not her real name) home at age 7. She is now 16. She was diagnosed with "mild attachment issues" at age 8 by an AT. Although she has never exhibited extreme behaviors, the last AT (who just brought home her new kids) said she could not help her because Hilde is just so well defended. She would not talk to the therapist at all, and if the therapist would try to talk to her she would sit in her chair and say a nonsense phrase over and over. I used up all of my savings paying for therapy for this child and it made not an iota of difference, although my sessions with the AT did help me maintain my sanity!
I'm just tired of being on the receiving end of this child's constant....what? I don't even have a word to describe it. Chinese water torture?!
I cannot tell the child anything, because she already "knows". If I try to have a talk with her she will chant over and over, "I'm not listening to you. I'm not listening to you. I'm not listening to you." It is infuriating. It doesn't mattter what it is I want to talk about, that is what she does if she thinks my words are going to require something of her.
Everything has to be on her terms. If not, if I manage to get the upper hand in some way, she will punish me with some passive-aggressive act.
I am so tired. What do I do?
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