[Janeytwo]

I am loathe to say this and I never thought I would; not open with you all.

But seeing what's going on out there with OA these days.....witnessing posts of the injustices on all sides?

Honestly, closed adoption was so much easier in some ways. Not that it was easy but more peaceful perhaps on some level.

I don't know how you young people do it; what kind of sheer guts it must take to traverse all this.

From open relinquish birthmothers to open adoptive parents......how does a person negotiate all of this and still stay sane?

You've all got my vote.

For all the long nightmare that Closed Adoption raked on women; well.....young folks are still being raked over the coals of the adoption world. And the adoptees are caught in the middle.

Is this crap never going to end?

Here is an honest question that I am certain many women from the Closed Era must surely ask themselves and I ask it of all of us here now..........

Would "baby buying" ever have occurred on such a seemingly rampant scale in the time of closed adoptions? I do not think so.

Dont' get me wrong. I'm not naive. We're talking about the human race here. If there's a sleazy underhanded way of doing business, one member of our stellar species will surely find it.

But that's not true of all of us.

Just my opinion. I would love to hear what the good women in here have to say.

I am serious here. Did closed adoptions offer some form of peace that open does not?

And if so, is there some legal way to meld the two so that we can ease the challenges for future generations on all sides of this triad?

Much hugs to all.

Oh and if any flamers decide to stop by to give me their superior opinion, you'll be wasting valuable ammo. Go shoot some other loser. I got laundry to do.