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We adopted a sibling group ages 2, 5, and 10 two years ago. It has been a wonderful experience. There are hard moments, and without a doubt we have needed counseling and supports for the girls.
My oldest daughter is and A student, her teachers always tell me what a wonderful, sweet child she is.
My middle daughter is smart, and funny. She has
some anger issues, and struggles with believing she will really stay forever in this family. She has some major tantrums usually lasting about 30 minutes. They have also gone from a couple times a week to a couple every few months. She has been in trouble at school, but never to the extent of going to a principal's office. She works with a counselor and is finally beginning to talk about her feelings. She can be very affectionate and insightful. My in-laws are impressed by the steps she is making towards being more free with her affection toward them. Unless you knew her really well, you'd never suspect the difficulties she had in her first 5 years.
My youngest daughter has had some struggles, partly with feeling secure. For a while she didn't want me out of her sight. She has required occupational therapy, and counseling. She recently moved from a special ed. Pre-K room to a regular room. Academically is ahead of the other pre-K kids. She is an active little girl who loves gymnastics, her friends, and her famlies.
It is harder to parent children adopted at older ages. There is no doubt that struggles will occur, and the kids have lots of pain. I absolutely would do it again in a heartbeat. My daughters are some of the biggest blessing in my life.
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