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Yorkiegirl,
The court sets the number of visits. Whether you use an agency or not, that stays the same.
What changes is who does the supervising. For example, I don't supervise visits. Ever. DSS here doesn't ask us to, but even if they did, I wouldn't. I also don't give bfamilies my address, allow them to come to my home, or go to their homes. We're not asked to here, but even if I were asked to, I wouldn't--at least not at first, until I really knew the bfamily well.
I have been asked to give out my phone number to bparents. I don't do it until I know them quite well, and can trust that they'll use it responsibly. But I have given it out to some of my kids' bfamilies in the past, after I knew them.
DSS can't force you do to any of this. They can *ask* you to do it. And you can say no. It's their choice then whether they want to move the kids, or even give you a placement. I'm fine with that---I have my boundaries, and if DSS doesn't like them, they are free to find another foster family.
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