[nikkianni]

Last night at our family Christmas, my uncle announced that we shouldn't try to adopt again, we'd never get that lucky twice and we need to have "our own" next time.
My reply: DD is my own and I have the birth certificate to prove it.
His reply: Oh you know what I mean. Yes, but she doesn't.
He's one of the only ones in the family that still does that. He just doesn't understand that as DD gets older, saying things like that will hurt her. I've tried to gently make the point but one more time and I'm whacking him over the head with it.
Both of our families never had any connection to adoption until DD so that last 20 months have been a major learning curve for them.
For DH and I, the situation seems to be worse because we could likely conceive if we wanted to. People just CANNOT comprehend why we don't try.....and then feel the need to expound about how wrong our choice is.