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Originally Posted by kittymom
And, like others mentioned, the "how could anyone give up their baby?" comments. I got one of those from my mother-in-law last weekend. I can't remember what I said - I know I tried to defend bmoms in general but I was caught off guard. I need to come up with a good response to that comment, because I have a feeling it's going to come up a lot.
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The way I handle it is, she did not give up her child, she gave her a much better life then she knew she could give. I also tell them it's the most selfless act that anyone can do. Also when people ask why her bmom did not love her, I always say she does. If you don't love someone then you don't care what happens to them. She may not want to visit often but she does email to see how she's doing. She cares and loves as much as she can.
In our case she knew had she kept her that K would have had the same life if not worse then she did. She did not want that at all. She has no way of supporting herself much less a baby. She is developmentally delayed (and my child is such a genious! even though mommy can't spell) and does not even have the comprehension or attention span to take care of her. When we go for a visit she is done after about 15 minutes because she simply does not know what to do with her.