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Originally Posted by loveajax
eparents imo have an ethical (though not legal) duty to pay back paps imo.sadly I see here
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''unlicenced therapists'' here trying to argue differently
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...if no expenses should be paid there should be no prebirth ''matching,'' imo. I would pay expenses (and I did not) for the sake only of my unborm child, not for someone who had no intention of placing to ''scam'' me (which btw I believe is a aberration, not the norm). |
LOVEJAX, I too am slightly incensed by that remark. When I come to the forums at a.com, I am here to SHARE my journey, and opinions. I most certainly do not try to dispense therapy, on ANY level. I assumed that is what the forums are for...to listen, voice, and hopefully learn from one anothers experience. I tend to rant at times, but I think we all do, and also feel that is a reason to come here. Back to the topic ....My journey earlier in this post is real, and I had truly EVERY intention to relinquish, like I said I was not prepared at all, to bring a child home...let alone twins. However, when being GIVEN things and NOT asking for things...it is a GIFT. I NEVER 1 time asked and even questioned how she(SW) could afford to do so, her reply was not to worry ...SHE gets reembersed for those things. I had no intentions of holding my twins, until my fiance, and the nurse convinced me to do so, that is when I fell in LOVE with THEM. Never once did I think" oh my lord I can't change my mind I have had ALL this stuff bought and paid for"...nor did I 1 time think that "ALL THAT STUFF" WOULD BE USED TO THREATEN AND MAKE ME SIGN AWAY MY CHILDREN. If I had been told, yes I could take my babies home and we need to set up a payment plan to pay back the agency, then I would have GLADLY and PROUDLY , done so. Instead, I was told sign or lose the twins and (by the way lose my 6 yr old) to foster care, leaving a judge to decide their fate, until ALL bills were paid...COERCION...ABSOLUTELY. THERAPIST...I am not.......
