[dspakowsky]

We haven't experienced anything like that with our children (yet), but we have in our family. My oldest sister was adopted out as a newborn... then 20 years later we all united. That was 17 years ago, and during that time there's been many disappoinements, misunderstandings, etc. Simply put, it's complicated. Looking back, maybe some family members wished we never all came together (I don't feel that way).

All this just to say there's mixed feelings when dealing with adoption, and "blood" ties, etc. People get nervois, get concered their "role" might be filled by someone else (brother, cousin, mother, etc.) of they reach out to bio family members.