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Originally Posted by gwtexas
Shocking because I realized that all of these problems I have might be due to my adoptee status. Inspiring because(at least I hope) maybe now I can do something about it. After my initial enlightenment that many other adoptees are experiencing the same issues as me, my question is-What can be done? Am I doomed to bear this scar for life? Or can I be saved?
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I'm a bit confused because you say that throughout your life you've given barely a thought to your adopted status ... which makes me think it wasn't a big deal for you, didn't cause you a huge amount of emotional pain ... yet you think it might be the explanation for "all these problems".
I guess it depends on what your problems are ... sometimes we carry scars from experiences and don't realize how it impacts our choices, fears, etc. Perhaps some of your problems have genetic origins - things that end up happening just because of the personality traits you inherited.
I just struggle with the disconnect I'm seeing between "never giving it much more than a passing thought" and the idea that you're scarred for life... the first statement says it's never mattered much and the second statement says you wonder if you'll ever escape the tragedy of it.
