[EZ2Luv]

How can a mother say GoodBye without even saying Hello? I am of the thinking that a bmom should take all the time she needs(without stringing PAPs along) to say hello and get to know her baby.

I have read threads where bmoms have decided to take baby home for a few days and while I cannot imagine how stressful it is for the PAPs, I feel it is the absolute best way to go about it.

I would much rather see that happen than a bmom rush into signing papers that are going to have a life long life changing impact on her. At least when a bmom takes time she has clearly been able to make a desicion that she is sure of.
I wish PAPs would see it that way insted of just "hurry up sign and hand me the baby" If I were a PAP I would much rather wait it out and know that this is what the bmom really wanted.
In the past few months there have been situations where the bmom/family has taken baby home for a few days or taken longer to sign and they ended up signing and PAPs ended up with the baby. So just because a bmom doesn't rush to sign doesn't mean that she isn't going to.Personally, I think there should be a law saying that bmoms have to wait at least a week before they can sign. I think that would be best for ALL involved. This way the Bmom cannot say she was rushed or coerced and if she is on the fence she can at least better think her decision through.

I have had 3 babies and I really could not make any major decisions for a week after the birth. Seriously, I had a hard enough time deciding which going home outfit the baby would wear ( I must have changed my mind 6 times), let alone a major decision. Between medication and hormones being all over the place I was in no position to decide anything.

EZ