[kudlz1977]

Hi, I am a new member here and found this site when searching google for a few questions that I have. I may be posting this in the wrong section and if so please accept my apologies. I am a birth mom who's son had been adopted 3 years ago, was to be an open adoption and it was a private placement rather than through an agency. I was not looking to give my son up, we had several children fell on hard times. A relative came to us and asked for our son, we refused and after weeks of this relative convincing my husband what a good thing it can be my husband then convinced me. This was 3 years ago and we had constant contact with the child until the AF got mad at me the birthmom. We no longer have any contact at all and this child who has been adopted has older siblings that know all to well they have a brother that they were promised contact with. So with the AP's stopping all contact for no good reason we had fought and fought to get what had been promised to us with no luck, mind you we the BP's had no lawyer, never appeared in court and just relied on everything the AF told us and believed everything said. So with all my research we did get access to the sealed adoption records, it was all very simple, nothing in there other than the required paperwork to adopt. My question is this:

In the petition to adopt question 6 is: The manner in which you obtained the child for adoption.

The adoptive parents answer was that my husband and I asked for them to take our son in.

This is not true, we did not ask for them to take one of our many kids in as we never in a million years ever thought about letting a child of ours be adopted.

I am wondering IF they would of told the truth would the judge have maybe questioned it and requested that the BP's come into court. We were coerced into signing an extra-juducial consent.

Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance.