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Has she always been this way from the start of your reunion, or has the behaviour escalated? Have you tried discussing boundaries with her before? If you wish to be in continued contact, you will need to set those boundaries with her, the sooner the better. I'm sorry she is doing this to you and also disrespecting your family. That is just a huge no-no in my book. If I ever have the chance to reunite with my son, the last thing in the world I'd want to do is disrespect his parents. I also would not want to be clingy, but it sounds like your bmom is going beyond clinginess into serious boundary violations. Answering your cellphone?? That is pretty audacious! It would send me up the wall if anyone answered my phone. My mom is really bad with boundaries and even she wouldn't do that! I think writing a letter would be best. This way, she can sit and read it without interrupting you. Decide what you want the boundaries to be and then be clear in expressing to her what is acceptable to you and what is unacceptable. Good luck with this and I hope you can reach a comfortable place with your bmom and that she will respect your wishes.
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