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Originally Posted by RC3
I understand boys and girls are different, but when is it enough and when can we get to a place of knowing life is too short. I thought my mom dying would have taught him that.
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He's way too young to know how short life is yet. He's still at the age of "invincibility" and thinking we're all immortal.
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Originally Posted by RC3
Do I continue to let him lead me into despair too? That's what it feels like he wants from me. I know that sounds horrible! He can't make me feel any worse about things than I already do.
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In my opinion, and this is just my opinion, we are all responsible for our own feelings. No one can make me feel something unless I allow it. That's why I never say to anybody, "you made me feel this way or that way." I say, instead, "I feel this way or that way when you do this or that." Ownership is key...
Have you dealt with your own guilt over placing your son for adoption? Could it be that there is some deep-seated guilt way inside that's bugging you? Usually when people do something that "makes" me feel terrible, I find that they're triggering one of my own issues.
Reunion is hard, as you know already. And I think dealing with a loved one who has emotional problems is always hard. Keep posting. You may not like what I have to say, and that's okay. You can just tell me to buzz off if I get overbearing. I just want you to feel better. And I want your son to get some help....