[BMfound]

I am a 31 year old adult adoptee who found my birth parents 4 years ago. I have nothing to do with my birth father, but by birth mother seems to think she can make up for lost time by smothering me.

How can I get her to back off?

She has answered my cellphone before and made disrespectful comments to my adoptive family members without even telling me that I had received a phone call. (This was while I was visiting her home 1000 miles away from mine 3 years ago!) That is only the beginning of a long laundry list of things she has done to burn bridges.

Any advice would be appreciated. I'm not a confrontational person, but I'm about to have a nervous breakdown over this. I am avoiding her phone calls like the plague, but know that I need to call her back soon to tell her that I can't have company this year.

Thanks,
BMfound