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Hello all.
I have a few thoughts about this...
I am on all 3 sides of the triad...a birthmom, an adoptee and was a legal guardian to a kid that just turned 19 on Fri. Amom died when I was 16, lost my son to adoption when I was 19 and met my son in 02' when he was 17, met my bmom and that side of the family in 03 and she died in 06'.
Tread carefully!
My son and I have had our share of ups and downs. I must say, I encourage communication between the aparents and you to a point. Although there will be mixed feelings along the way, I found out things I needed to know about my son that he would have never told me. Also, I got a pretty good idea of what he was like as a kid, that he couldn't tell me.
It helped that the aparents and I knew each other while I was pregnant and had many conversations about my son's future. Once I met him, I was better able to understand him by communicating w/ the aparents who certainly knew him better than me, which also helped me to deal with certain situations/manipulations, if you know what I mean.
I wished my amom and my bmom could have met.
Again, tread carefully!
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