[thanksgivingmom]

Even with your clarification, I have to agree with Aclee. I understand completely that things were hard and I support you not wanting to get into all of them here. But her not responding to this email doesn't happen in a vaccuum.

I think it's great that you guys are "emotionally ready to try this again" but if it doesn't work (again) then you have the ability to pull back again. Even if it's not cutting off contact completely, and keeping updates through a third party, it's very much a ball in YOUR court situation. At the end of the day, you and DH get to call the shots. It's a TERRIFYING spot for a firstparent to be in. Personally, if I were her I would feel a lot of pressure right now to do everything perfectly for fear of screwing up and going back to semi-open.

That's a lot of pressure to deal with on her end.

I'm not saying you're putting pressure on her, but she may feel pressure anyway. It may not sound fair, but you may have to prove to her that you really do want the openess again. That you're committed to seeing it through - even during the very hard and emotional times.

I promise I don't mean for this to come across as harsh, but I would try to put yourself in her shoes right now.