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Originally Posted by curiositykitten
I agree that I think it is a good sign that she was/is trying to help me. I was surprised she did it without mentioning it first. I assume she thought it would be a surprise for me.
I also recently got a much nicer more honest letter from her mother, my, bgrandmother which I think helped a lot.
I find it curious that he lists himself as single, maybe they're not legally married, just 'common law married'? He states that he has 5 children and from what I can figure, one is at least 22 years old. I'm not sure if this woman is the mother of his children or not. I'm not trying to be awful about this I pass through the town he lives in many times a year I could just go bang on his door if I wanted to start trouble. I'm just trying to be very respectful of his life and privacy I thought that might be something that would be appreciated.
It seems maybe he hasn't changed a lot, apparently his response when my bmom was pregnant was avoidance of the situation then as well.
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Curiosity, I was just wondering...why this reunion, attempt of contact is not just between you and firstdad? I see where you did not ask firstmom to interject, but for what ever reason she has. I sugeest you thank her for her help, but you will contact him from here on out. It is thoughful she is trying to help...but you have no idea what HE is being told and HE may need more time to process this. He may not have even recieved your e-mail, it may be being recieved from yet another 3rd party...does this make since? I think you should write him a letter and send it registered(and yes you can send it with HIM being the only one who can sign ). Until you speak to him and him only try not to assume too much. We all take different amounts of time to process these things. I have yet to locate my twin sons...but if and when , it will be only between me and them...no one else. When this happens and they wish info on their firstdad, I will give them this info, and THEY can do as they see fit with it. I will NOT be their go between, unless they ask me to. Reunion is so sensitive,, and overwhelming to say the least. Do not give up hope...you have come this far and I am sure you had many waits along the way. I send this with blessings and hope...
