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Cksmom brings up a good point if your bmom is from Korea. The cultural/language difference surely has an impact on a bmom's ability to search. Are there any registries specifically for Korean adoptees? Can you find a support group for international adoptees?
I know I have 3 half-siblings in Germany (my bdad's children) -- I am a little curious about them, but the thought of trying to find someone in another country is just too overwhelming. Your bmom probably has no idea how to find you in another country, and perhaps she feels she couldn't communicate with you anyway if she doesn't speak English. So please don't think she doesn't love you because she has not found you.
I often tell myself that my bmom made a huge sacrifice in her life to give birth to me and make sure I was placed in a good home. The social worker wrote that she was very pleased when he told her what kind of home I entered. Our bmoms always want the best for us. When I feel down, I remind myself that my bmom would not be happy to see me sad -- she gave me up so I would have the best life possible. I have to live my life in honor of her and her sacrifice. And, yes, it is hard. But we have to keep moving forward, one step at a time.
I have never hated my birthday, but I always have thought of my bmom on that day -- she gave me the ultimate present.
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