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I went from 0-2 as well. I was placed with a baby 17 days old and her 4yo brother. I didn't sleep for quite some time. I had the baby in a bassinet next to me and the little boy in his room. It's been two months and I'm finally feeling like we are in a routine and all is going SOOOOO much better. I'm single and thought I could do it all. I ended up calling my mom and she came out and stayed with me for a little bit so I could get some help.
Don't be afraid to ask for help and I hope you are taking some time off of work to get everything established.
Are you going to be taking them to day care? If that is part of your future plan maybe you could get that started early by just having them go for 3-4 hours a day. That will allow you some sleep and cleaning time as well as help establish the routine that you will be dropping off and picking the kids up, which will help to establish trust as well.
Also, does little boy blue have a comfort item? A blanket or bear or something? If not, go to the store and let him pick one out. That may help too.
Other than that, the other suggestions you got are good. I wouldn't put LBB in the playpen with the movie, he may be too big for that, but to just have the movie playing where he can play while it is going on. I noticed with my last 2yo he never actually sat and watched the movies, but enjoyed having them going while he was playing and running around.
And, while you can't sleep with him (that's a rule where I am) a good idea may be to put a mattress down on the floor next to his bed (is he in a toddler bed or a twin bed... the twin may be too big if he's in that.) and lay on the floor next to him while he falls asleep. That way he can hold your hand and know your there, plus you can get some sleep too.
Good luck. Keep posting. Many of us have been there. I seriously questioned my ability to handle two, but here I am 2 months later and it's going so much better. I really couldn't choose between the two of them if I had to have only one.
Heidi
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