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Sorry mike that made me laugh! No don't marry each other that would freak out all the boys! LOL
Anyway, I don't know that you need to get married as I think there are boys that benefit from just having a dad, especailly if they have been really hurt by the women in thier lives. (unless of course you want to get married, then go for it and show them how a real man treats a woman!)
Anyway, back to the original question. I think V is listening. Keep talking.
I remember when my sister complained about my waiting up for her so I pretended to go bed and she got all upset thinking I didn't care anymore. I think V loves the fact that you care. He just does not know how to show it. Because of what he has been through he is going to have even a tougher time showing the emotions than you. In an abusive situation showing emotions is showing weakness. My husband used to think it was strange that in situations where many women cry, I don't. I learned early not to show emotions in front of people as it would be pounced on as a show of weakenss. I have had to make a concious effort to change that it and it took a long time! However, those people who tried to reach out to me, I did hear even when I pretended not to. I did notice and remember even if it seemed like I didn't at the time. Trust me, he hears everything, and he is glad to know you care, he just can't show it yet. He may be in his 40's like me before he can admit it, but he appreciates it.
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