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You will figure out what is best as you go along. My advice would be to take it slow, despite how fast you want to now. Take the time one on one to know them, don't rush it.
As to your adoptive parents, they will always be your parents too. You need to make sure they understand that, as they will have their own set of insecurities. I'm in my 40's but every step of my search was shared at the time with my parents, that in my opinion helped them over any concerns. I also made sure that my Mom and my BAunt met very soon into the reunion (BMother had already passed on so it may have made it easier...).
Just be honest and be yourself, take the time to find out what your BFamily is like in everyday life, do you have similar lifestyles, things to talk about other than 'adoption', find the common interests, share the good memories, create a bond.
Good luck, search your heart, follow that path.
Kind regards,
Dickons
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