[EandDmom]

Hang in there .. it will calm down just like everyone said. Start a routine now with them so they know what to expect that did wonders for our 3. I wake up daily with one to two kids in my bed. I don't even feel them anymore because they realized if they woke me they had to leave. It is a major rule no kids allowed to sleep with you ever. Pack and plays are wonderful although my little one has learned to climb out it still helps if we are watching a video. I put him in a high chair while I'm cooking as he likes to be with me too. You have got to get some sleep though or your not gonna make it. Do they have a casa? Maybe I'm spoiled with my kids since she is always begging to let me help with the kids. If you do maybe they could sit with them long enough to get a nap in. You are going to just have to do like a newborn forget the cleaning and just sleep when they sleep the hard part will be getting them to sleep at the same time. Even if you have to hire a neighborhood teenage girl to sit for a few hours so you can sleep.
Our 2 year old was the same as the one you have. Barely talked so you could understand him and afraid of everything he is so much better now. As for the baths try giving him one in the kitchen sink. They love that for some reason its not as scary and the sprayer really helps with the grits in the hair..lol we love grits too.
Good luck and let us know how your doing.