[Emberbit]

I wouldn't send the stuff to BGma becuase of the trouble. If you send it to the agency, will they hold it for her? You could get the stuff together and send it to the agency and then the day you send it, send b-mom a message on myspace or by email saying that it was sent and you hope she enjoys them and that her holidays were good. Keep it light and something that doesn't actually require a response. That way, you're keepign up your end, letting her know you're not still backing away but you're not being too pushy either.

I'm always happy to get emails and pics but sometimes I rewrite my response so many times and it never gets sent. And if the emails get old, I wonder if she'll be annoyed that I took so long to respond so I don't respond at all because I can't explain why it's hard to write that response/ My daughter's adoption is really wide open...her mom calls me several times per week. But I don't initiate calls and even though I talk to her with no trouble, I still have trouble creating a written email response in any reasonable length of time.