[HopingforAlex]

Originally Posted by Perfect7

Hugsnlove, were you removed from your home and placed in foster care? If so, I doubt it was a loving, safe, moral home. If you weren't placed into foster care, then the issues of home life of foster children discussed above do not apply to you. This thread discussed foster children, and not the sexually abused community at large. Not all children who were sexually abused act out, and I do not think anyone is claiming they do. However, the initial post was regarding a child who had been sexually abused and who had already acted out.

While many may take for granted that it's the parents that put their children at risk, we cannot and SHOULD NOT forget there are situations where parents are truly powerless in this system. NOT ALL parents are bad, evil child hating monsters. Some are MORAL, Loving, supportive and have issues to deal with on their own.

Please don't forget that children suffer abuse of all types, from many other people than their own parents. In many cases, the children are removed from their homes when abuse is found, even if it's an aunt or an uncle or a cousin or family friend. While mom and dad may be completely moral and abusing a child is the last thing they would ever consider, perps are EVERY where and with many families having to have both parents working and day cares and babysitters, etc... the exposure potential is much greater.

To judge what one poster knows to be her truth against what your experiences say are your truths is wrong. There's no fact in that, it's opinion and while many of us have pretty set opinions about some topics, we should also remember to not belittle the truths we each have, even if they don't mesh with our beliefs.