[melissa_bear003]

Originally Posted by fredalina

Thankfully she is in a pre-adoptive home now and doesn't have the same issues any longer. i completely support foster parents and i believe there are very few of the horrible abusers and/or money-hungry foster parents out there. i think her former foster mom cared about her, etc, but i can't see the whole stipend going to the girl's care given what i saw. Especially since it was a therapeutic rate. But i don't think it was gross abuse by any means and probably went to things still pretty much related to care, like having a 2-bedroom apartment instead of a 1-bedroom, or having a little bit bigger car, etc.

Mostly i wondered what folks do and what regulations there are in various places as well, not just about this girl, though thinking about her brought on the question and provided a good "hypothetical". Make sense?

Oh, another question: Are you allowed to require your kids to save a certain portion or to give a certain portion (such as to tithe at church)?

This may get me into trouble, but I *think* that would be considered forcing religious observations on a child, and a huge no no.

Here, foster parents MUST give the quoted amount of allowance, its not allowed to be withheld for any reason...and, as I understand it, foster parents also have no say in how its spent. Can enourage saving, etc, but ultimately, no say.