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Originally Posted by BethanyB
I don't think we get to draw the line at all. If something comes from the SW, then in my eyes it should be done. If something comes from the bio parent and you feel it is unreasonable, than take it to the SW and they should decide where to draw the line.
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To me, drawing the line isn't about me "winning" or the bio parents "losing." I think it's about drawing the line on disruption of your own family while complying with the CW.
My schedule is amazing, and very detailed. Here's our current schedule:
Bubba has preschool Mon - Thurs
Nikki has preschool Mon, Wed, Fri
Sissy has daycare on Wednesday
I have college Tue, Wed, Thur
DH has college Wed plus a work schedule that changes weekly
my mom has college Thur, Fri, Sat
In addition to everyone's schools, I have the normal tasks of laundry, housework, church, doctor's appointments, shopping.
For me winning isn't about having the bmom lose, it's about keeping her visits in a timeframe that I can manage. When I am in class and get a call saying drop everything and bring the kids, it's hard to feel like I have any control over my own life. If however, I can tell the CW (and I do) I am free to bring the children on _________ or ________, which would be better for you? I have won, because I am still in control of my life and my time.
My CW had a nasty habit of scheduling EVERYTHING during nap time. It finally stopped when I brought the children, screaming from lack of nap, to his office and left them there with him for their visit. I wasn't losing, the kids were. After that screaming visit, we've never had another nap-time visit.
Like I've said before, winning isn't about the bparents losing, it's about a measure of control over my life.