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Not unusual for this to happen, Anne
Originally Posted By Carol, Older Birthfamily Forum, Experts Group
Oh, Anne -- we all have these experiences, please don't be discouraged. There are emotions accompanying Reunion that we've never really experienced before. We have to take a deep breath now and then and just plunge in.
Some of us birthmothers want badly to be your MOTHER and we tend to pressure you too much. In time most of us realize that we CAN'T fill that role; it is already taken. It takes time for us to search for and find the place we fit in your life and that requires a lot of patience and understanding from you.
My daughter and granddaughters (and son in law) are the main focus of my thoughts, even after 15 years of reunion. But, I've learned (Thank the Good Lord) that I am NOT the focus of all of their thoughts. They are busy living their lives. I had to LEARN that and UNDERSTAND that and it took TIME.
Be patient, Anne. If you would like me to e mail some helpful articles -- for you and your birthmother - please drop me a line. In the meantime, have patience and let the reunion unfold at its own pace.
Love 'n hugs, Carol
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