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Originally Posted by thelowlanders
So alot of you know about my silly power struggle I took on with bio mom. The case worker and I came to a conclusion that all correspondence bmom wanted would go through her. Including the portrait shpeal. CW said she would arrange for a visit day, to transport them to Sears and have them done. But....
Today at CRB meeting, B Gma and B mom ask about the portraits. They beg it's his first year and it means alot. I recall that the CW had reassured me that she would set it up w/them. They proceeded to tell me that she said NO and also threatened them greatly to never, Ever call my home or do any more sneaky games. They were baffled and said they would never do that. Gma says she's an x-foster parent herself, etc.
So, I really feel like such a terd now. **ugh**
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Everybody gets fed up at times but you came here and asked the tough questions...and got tough answers...give yourself a break.
You now have the chance to work from a clean slate - no 'but they did this' and 'I did that' - clean slate...ask to have the birth family meet at Sears and get the pictures taken, wish them a merry christmas, enjoy the holidays and if possible send a tape or pictures of the day. Everyone reaches their breaking point - especially when they feel overwhelmed and generally it is something silly that is the straw the breaks the camels back and if you were not overwhelmed it would have not have been an issue. Go forward with grace, do what is right in your heart for your kids.
Kind regards,
Dickons