We have trouble with our 10 yr fs after visits. He is not ADD/ADHD (dd is) but after a visit he is all over the place as if he was. He leaves for a visit at 3, as soon as school is out and gets home about 8.
He doesn't want to do homework after he gets home and let's face it who would. He chooses not to do it in the car on the way to the visit, probably because he is nervous.
This is what I do...Internet time motivates him as does games and tv (but internet is big, he plays some age approp meez game he loves). I say it's time to do your homework I can't and won't make you do it, but I will help you in 5 minutes. If he isn't at the table in 5 minutes I gently remind him that his 40 mins online for the next night are in jeopardy. If he looses his internet time thats on him. If he doesn't finish his homework and ends up with a bad grade the rest of his privileges are on the table to be removed one at a time.
I let his teacher know the days of visits (you could let the teacher know therapy days) as I know he is going to struggle the next day. She doesn't give him a free pass the next day but does pick her battles.
I probably sound kinda harsh, and should mention I am the bio parent of a special needs child. She has adhd, bi-polar disorder, ocd and aspergers. I have learned the structure and tons of rules limit the chaos for everyone. I hate the structure but the kids thrive with it. Good luck
