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Yes it is so crazy they will not even listen to her at all. He was suppose to call every Thurs during mediation and he called about 4 times. We would ask her if she wanted to talk to him and she said no. On her birthday it was a thurs and he never called nor send her not even a Bcard. When he did not show up for mediation the mediator closed the case and turned her repoart into the court. His attorney said we were not letting him talk to her and the judge ruled more medation and that we were to have her in NC over Thanksgiving and Christmas. Everything he did not do meant nothing. Our attorneys advice= Lets ride it out because his attorney is retireing and his next attorney may be an honest one and to make sure we force her to talk to him.
We had a long talk with DD and the next time he called she talked and then cryed afterwards and asked why we were making her do it. We told her that if she does not want to talk to him she would have to tell him that herself. The next time he called she said with a terrified little voice"I have something to tell you- I do not want to talk to you". She started crying and handed the phone to DW and he told her that she better get used to it because she will be living with him soon.He was very very rude and angry.
He has called since and assured us that he does not want to disrupt her and that he has no intention of her coming to live with him. Just wants a relationship with her and if she is eighteen when that happens so be it. We will see how honest he is about that. He will never sign anything paper wise.
We figure maybe 12 to 14 yrs old we will look into getting her an attorney and having her file her own case in OH. We do not need any paper to feel like she is our DD nor does she. We just want the security of knowing that the crazy court system in NC can not pull anything to remove her.
That is where we stand. I pray that anyone going through this type of thing has more luck and a court system that will look at the child instead of a man that was absent from her life for the first 6 yrs.
GOD BLESS
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