Mama S, it's a daily occurrence already. Several guys constantly say he's obviously homosexual since he hasn't gone there with a girl, and he just lets it roll right off. Seriously, J says it happens every single day, and it doesn't bother him one bit. He knows who he is and has no need to "prove" his sexuality to anyone, especially to stupid guys who like to mouth off.
Courtney, I WISH I could say he dropped out on the spot, but he's trying to see how the leadership responds before he pulls the final plug, because he can always drop out, but he can't ever rejoin if he does. I've never been in favor of it, but I've been letting him make the call on it, because he is 19 and he already waited a year to decide because we asked him to. He's trying to figure out whether this is just a few rotten apples or a whole rotten barrel.
Today, another guy sent out a mass email to the chapter, again insulting J. In response, J drafted and sent a very direct letter (on his own- told me about it later this evening) to the chapter president and told him he needed to get his guys under control or J would pursue any action needed in his own defense, including involving college administration or legal action, if necessary. He said he was confident that he had his family behind him in any action he wished to pursue (he sure does). He said, "This is not a threat, this is the defense of my character and I will go to whatever lengths necessary to defend it."
He soon after got a phone call from the guy who wrote the email, apologizing. At this point, J is satisfied that he sent the clear message that he will not be messed with. For my part, I'm still concerned about the damage done by what was out there being read by who knows how many people. For me, the perps apologizing doesn't make what they did disappear. You can be sorry you smeared someone's name...but the name stays smeared. J thinks anyone who knows him knows it's not true and he doesn't care what strangers think. I'm not so cavalier about it. But he's been handling it fine on his own, so I'm not going to interject myself unless he calls me in as backup. I'll just be the T'd off mama.
